a love hate relationship

Posted: April 16, 2010 in damdoumization, people, relationships, theories, thoughts

Wiki defines a love hate relationship as follows:

A love-hate relationship is a personal relationship involving simultaneous or alternating emotions of love and enmity. This relationship does not have to be of a romantic nature, and may be instead of a sibling one. It may occur when people have completely lost the intimacy within a loving relationship, yet still retain some passion for, or perhaps some commitment to, each other.

Doesnt that describe most marriages?

Now on a serious note, I wonder, do we actually need a little bit of hate to enhance the love? just as darkness is essential to appreciate light? is too much love just not healthy?


  1. ze2red says:

    This is one big philosophical question. But i guess yes, we need some hate to juggle around our memory what we used to have. To restart the fire of passion we once experienced, or renew the life we already have. Sometimes it makes us cherish more what we have as we were about to lose it for hate. Simply, it’s like the old say “Spice up your relationships”. IT meant don’t let it go on with the same rhythm. Find things to revive it, and if it’s a little bit of hate, then why not 🙂

    • Verbal Alchemy says:

      i believe a fight every once in a while is essential to rekindle the emotion that gets lost in the daily mundane routine.. and welcome to my corner 🙂

      • ze2red says:

        Totally agree 🙂

        and thanks for the warm welcoming feelings, I’ve been a silent reader for a while now, but the topic was tempting 🙂

  2. blabbrgirl says:

    a relationship is like a roller coaster, love and hate are pretty strong emotions, marriage is a roller coaster as well, but the difference is, in a typical successful marriage, you might fall in and out of love, but you do not hate.. hate is an extremely powerful emotion that is only created between a married couple when they really hurt each other..

    falling in and out of love in a relationship is healthy however, as long as one of the couple is in love when the other isn’t..

    nice post 🙂

    • Verbal Alchemy says:

      first of all welcome to my box 🙂
      as i told Marv, i do not think hate is the opposite of love. if u still can harbor a powerful emotion towards someone, u obviously care bout them just as much. but thats just me : D
      loved ur last line and agree to it.

  3. Marvin says:

    Nah. a truly loving relationship is spiced with annoyance, but never hate. If it’s hate, then you know that the “love” is just chemistry, and the “hate” is intellectual. Listen to the hate part. It’s smarter. ;-_

    • Verbal Alchemy says:

      well i dont think hate is the opposite of love u know.. i think indifference is. but hate is still an intense emotion. i think love and hate mostly co-exist in a lot of relationships. even the ones that work!

  4. Rula A. says:

    I think having an argument between couple do enhance love..

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  6. KJ says:

    Of course we need a bit of hate to feel love – though in relations it is very important to make the distinction between hate and disliking

    • Verbal Alchemy says:

      hate might have been the wrong choice of words. but i still dont find hate a bad thing, its not the opposite of love, and its a passionate feeling still. its almost as intense as love.

  7. Anonymous says:

    Love and Hate are both very intense. If everything is great all the time it cud bring people closer but it is necessary to see the imperfections in another to Love them. Hate can be an exciting thing but is sometimes confused with a genuine disgust and thats not healthy @ all

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