the art of manipulation

Posted: March 11, 2009 in Uncategorized

is very widespread, i am inclined to believe its actually instinctive!

(long psychobabble post ahead!)

if you observe children, you find that they are masters at emotional blackmail, and so are parents when they get older, simply coz they go back to being kids again! younger siblings manipulate their parents to blaming the older kids for messes they created.. bosses manipulate their subordinates into doing all the work for them then arrogantly taking all the credit for it and then some! and that’s where the art part comes in. art here has to be subtle.

i like to think that manipulation is split up into two directions, one is mind manipulation, while the other is emotional manipulation.

mind manipulation is best described as brainwashing or mental hacking.. which means enslaving the person and puppet-izing them, sometimes with the use of hypnosis. most of mind manipulation is seen in cults, groups, and the army. i believe in the Arabic saying (il zann a2wa min il se7er – loosely translated into ‘continuous nagging is stronger than voodoo’).. techniques include: endless repetition, group-think (using the whole group to draw each person into its mindset), enemy creation, and control of both the surroundings and the flow of information. by themselves, each technique has little effect, but when taken together, they create a strong influence over personal thought-patterns and behaviors. i tend to believe that this form of manipulation began with satan, and is still ongoing.

mind manipulation is a bigger concept and a more agressive tactic and is used usually by groups, emotional manipulation is used between individuals and is more subtle and sometimes unnoticable except after a while, so you need to adjust the sensetivity of your bullsh!t meter to escape unharmed!

you can spot an emotional manipulator easily, they 1) never try to be honest and even if you ask them specific questions you will only get vague answers 2) say one thing and later assure you they did not say it! its called crazy making, and be sure to make them know ur on to it, carry a pad and pen if you to jot down stuff if have to! it’ll tick them off. 3) make you feel guilty for speaking up OR not speaking up, for caring or not giving a damn, for being sensetive or insensetive. they will make you feel guilty for anything and everything, since most of us are inclined to do whatever is necessary to reduce the feeling of guilt and thats where they want us! 4) have no sense of accountability at all, and will never take responsibility for themselves or their behavior, and usually they dont do their ‘dirty’ work themselves either. they manipulate others to do it for them. very satanic behavior.

if you’re being vulnerable, dont show it, an emotional manipultor present will take advantage of it and will be the willing helper until they get full control.


  1. Reem says:


    i was all fired up bedoon hal wa9ta :/

    i have to tell you about the french %^#%& and her manipulation(S) today! if only i can kill her and feed her to the dogs..


  2. Naser says:

    i love the new themeeeeeeeeeeeee
    will be back to read later

  3. KJ says:

    they must all be gathered into a lump and put through a long horrible death

  4. Batoul says:

    LOL “continuous nagging is stronger than voodoo” indeed..
    Love your psychobabbles, nicely put.. mabrouk el new look.

  5. Reem: LOL well you should, but can we please do it in one sitting not like that story that took 4 phone calls to finish w ya reit kan fi moral to the story! :la6em:

  6. Naser: yeah, nmore me than the pinky girly girl 😀 needs some tweeks though, with time!

  7. KJ: that will be one huge lump!

  8. Batoul: its so true come to think of it 😀
    thanks hun *hug*

  9. Marvin says:

    Nice new header graphic!

    I like those emotional manipulators, especially the ones who say the opposite of what they mean. Then I follow what they say at face value, and then throw their words back at them to show that I did exactly what they told me to do. If they deny it, then I just laugh and walk away. It infuriates them to no end.

    Luckily I don’t run into those very often. And when I do, I make sure to run into them and knock them down. 😉

  10. Verbal Alchemy says:

    Marv: thanks!
    i dont have the patience that u possess to be honest, i cant stand liers, hypocrites and manipulators, and my face doesnt hide these emotions easily!

  11. RaiulBaztepo says:

    Very Interesting post! Thank you for such interesting resource!
    PS: Sorry for my bad english, I’v just started to learn this language 😉
    See you!
    Your, Raiul Baztepo

  12. Touché says:

    Nicely articulated, I wonder what are the reasons for emotional manipulation? I think there are two groups of them, one who intentionally commit those actions and the second group is what I find interesting, couldn’t be that they suffer from emotional hollowness that they subconsciously feed their hunger with their manipulation?!

  13. Verbal Alchemy says:

    Touché: i tend to believe that manipulative people are fueled by attention. even if negative attention. as long as someone is giving them a channel to try and extort, even if it is going unsuccessfully, they revel in the mere attempts at gaining control, consciously or unconsciously. self maniputaiors however are fueled by fear. they fear reality more than anything i reckon.

  14. Harmonixer says:

    Very interesting indeed!

    I’ll be more aware of these people right now.But i’m sure there are other ways as well.I had a kinda different case of being manipulated.I can share if you want:
    It was when I was out with my friends(all girls me including),one of them was a really close friend of mine and we both had told the rest two that we didn’t wanna go to a certain place.As we started chatting with each other,the one of the two distanced herself from us,moved forwards and acted like a “guide” and actually took us to the place were we didn’t wanna be.Didn’t take me long to realize and I didn’t like it cause she didn’t respect our choice.

    I don’t in which category to put this type of manipulation.

    Also along the way,as she was “guiding” us,she kept quite actually since we were engrossed in the conversation and it wouldn’t be good to distract us so we could notice.

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