Archive for October, 2008

* i am somehow convinced that selfishness and selflessness are both really bad qualities.. i even tend to believe selflessness is worse! with selfishness, you at least get what you want, you might hurt people along the way, or lose some, but still, your goals are achieved, your possessions are ‘possessed’, and your wants and needs are actually fulfilled, besides the fact that you’re all alone coz noone will stand that attitude… but you wont even notice it! coz you’re so self centered. however, when you’re selfless, its so energy draining, and psychologically tormenting! You do everything for the good of others, involuntarily, even if you would like to say no, something inside (the inner stupid person) says yes. you end up without doing much on your personal goals, over extending yourself for others will drain you emotionally and physically, most of it will go unappreciated so you will feel frustration, mostly innate, and one day you wake up resenting youself to the max!!! and then starts the psychological torment, you start detesting yourself for being the weak person that you are.. you dont lose people or hurt them like the selfish ones do, but you lose your self love.. which is worse and harder to handle..

* why on earth do some people have to say ‘thats so funny’ instead of, erm, actually laughing at something/ incident/someone!!! it doesnt make sense announcing it without laughing! eft!

* black does NOT look good on everyone! 

* its kinda sad when you reach mid/late twenties, and you know so little about your religion..

* middle class doesnt exist IMHO, its either rich, or poor, even in the holy books, there was never a mention of middle class! and its true.. If a financial crisis hits an individual, 75% of individuals will be considered poor, or get really close to becoming poor. the remaining 25% are either very poor, or very rich to not feel the crisis.

my best friend of 5 years will be getting married in Jan, and moving away to her soon-to-be husband’s country of origin, as he is happy and she also loves it there, in addition to that, he has a great job where he will be providing very well for her and their future family.

we call each other everyday in the mornings, or sms to check up on one another, we used to work together for a year then i left but we still kept that ritual of early morning smss and calls, every alternating weekend of outings and catching up, and every problem shared and discussed as if we’re sisters.. and somehow, we grew to become just that.

as hard as it is for me to say goodbye, i cant be selfish and ask her to stay. its so difficult finding friends when you’re not a kid, and in such a cruel city with no genuine social contacts, it will be hard going forward.. oh well, i guess life is really a series of meetings and partings..

 

freaky friday!!

Posted: October 12, 2008 in damdoumization, i wanna know, random, thoughts

halloween is around the corner, well not quite the corner! but every year around this time i wish i can trade lives with someone else! just for a day.. a change of scenery, a diff set of fears and dreams, just living in someone else’s shoes for a day.. why cant we wear a costume and actually instantly transform into that character for that night?

if you were to trade lives for halloween, who would you chose?

i’d chose to be a fairy, or angelina jolie 👿

fashion donts (2)

Posted: October 7, 2008 in damdoumization, fashion, men, random

after fashion donts 1 which was aimed at girls, enter fashion donts 2! in which i shall commence to dissect the fashion crimes that some men all over the world are guilty of.

1. the worst thing a man can do by far: wear a suit without a belt, even SANTA knows better!!

it does nothing good for your look, so please never EVER go out without a belt on a suit, formal trousers or even jeans! only pairs of anything wearable that can do without a belt are shorts, capris and khakis, but a suit or jeans (whether proper formal jeans or torn out/worn out jeans) without belts are a complete murder of fashion!

2. which brings us to another suit/jeans no-no, WHITE SOCKS.

Never, and i mean NEVER, even under threat, wear white socks under a suit or jeans, even if you’re wearing sneakers, thats what gray was created for! wear only dark shades matching your suit and/or shoes color. the most tricky suit color is navy blue, if you’re not wearing a navy blue shoe since they are SO unbelievably hard to find even for women attire, wear a black shoe with black socks, and if you chose to wear dark brown shoes under a navy blue suit (which i personally find more appropriate and a lot classier than black) then you wear navy blue socks matching your suit shade or dark brown matching your shoe color.

3. suspenders, one word: why???

unless you are a) a cop b) a chick c) steve urkel (jaleel white), then suspenders should not exist in your fashion vocab!

4. formal wear in very luminous bright colors:

please view exhibit A:  and exhibit B:

unless you’re in show business or a clown, please refrain from wearin a red suit or a magenta shirt to work. it doesnt ‘scream’ professionalism.

5. sequined shirts and t-shirts (need i include – GULP – pants?!): 

if its not halloween and you’re going as 1) Elvis 2) a drag queen 3) a disco ball, then DO not, for the love of God, wear anything sequined!

6. the ‘white boy’ afro:

we do not need to witness you challenging mother nature & growing your hair against gravity, especially if you’re not black at birth!! nothing more tacky than a white boy thinking he’s P Diddy, even Eminem knew better, he kept his over peroxided do as he sang black.

there’s so much more on my mind, but of course, thats what sequels are for!

ramadan is over

Posted: October 5, 2008 in bla bla bla, life, ma7alli, rant, thoughts

but the spirit hopefully will live on, i had such a magical month this year, it was the most peaceful ramadan i ever had to be honest. i felt closer to God than i ever were, and i intend to keep it that way, inshAllah.

what baffles me however, is the audacity of so many people, muslims or not, in this holy month. wherever you look you find someone drinking coffee in their car, or rolling down their tinted car windows to blow the smoke off their ciggies, ya3ni cant you wait to get home or to the office or to a freaking parking lot! people have no respect i swear! i go to other offices, or even downstairs to exit to the parking lot (coffee shops/restaurants were operating in my office building as they were in many office buildings in the city!) or to the road, and can smell coffee, smoke, and pungent smelling foods!

what bothers me the most is that the country doesnt impose its supposedly ‘Islamic’ rules on its residents! THEY should respect that its a holy month of fasting and that this is afterall an Islamic country, but rude enough, they want US to get over it coz its a diversified community! in Egypt, you DARE not be caught even chewing gum in the streets, christian or not, everyone has a certain amount of respect for the month, and the country has strict rules on open shops and coffeeshops. i wish that gets implemented here someday, coz even though i couldn’t care less who eats what before me in ramadan, its just rude and disrespectful.

as opposed to common belief, good girls DONT always love bad boys, but MOST of them get attracted to one (at the very least) in their lifetime.

why i hear you ask?

i have noticed, after a lot of observation, that the unfortunate truth about women is that they are stupid enough to think they can change men, of course the bigger challenge is changing a bad boy! also, usually we, as humans, innately tend to defy our parents in everything we do, hence, going out with the one boy your mom will always warn you about presents itself as one of the biggest congenital habits, should you be expected to the miss goody-two-shoes by your parents and society. we are born with a passion to be unique, and being predictable is, to some, the worst thing that can happen!

i like to think that the idea of a bad boy (or girl) is exciting because of our curious nature as humans. we love to analyze one another, dissect each other’s personalities and  we love to explore, we thrive for adventure! and what better way to explore than by being in a totally different comfort zone, a bad zone! for a good girl who just wants out, a short lived relationship with the total opposite of her persona DOES sound ideal, but on the long run, i personally think they both will realize that it wont work, and if it would, they both will change and compromise, eventually.